Lemonade Wisdom 🍋 Change in California

...but we need your help As I near the end of my advocacy journey, I am determined to see SB331 (RUBIO) signed into law; Piqui's Law. The past few weeks have been a whirlwind of social media tagging, emailing and calling Assemblymembers and Senators around the clock. I drove up to Sacramento for the Senate hearing which was one of the most emotional yet amazing experiences of my lifetime. SB331 passed through the Assembly and the Senate, unanimously. Sunday, I hopped back in the car and drove down to Pasadena for a press conference with Senator Susan Rubio, Ana Estevez, Mia Tyler, Maya Laing and Sandra Ross. I invite you to [watch the press conference here](. I must say that Ana Estevez and "Team Rubio" are a force, it has been such an honor to see the passion and dedication behind this important legislation. So many incredible people working so hard to protect California's children. and...before I tell you what is next for me, I have a favor to ask of you: we need Governor Gavin Newsom to know that the whole world is watching California. Regardless of where you are located, if you could do two things for me: 1. [Sign this petition]( and pass it on to anyone else who would be willing to sign. 2. Email the Governor's office at: Leg.Unit@gov.ca.gov using the following template: Email Subject Line: REQUEST FOR SIGNATURE: SB 331 (Rubio) Piqui’s Law: Keeping Children Safe From Family Violence. Dear Governor Newsom: I respectfully ask for your signature on Piqui's Law, which will further protect victims and children of domestic violence and child abuse by ensuring that critical judicial training and reporting is established. The law will also prohibit family courts from ordering highly traumatic, unregulated reunification treatments, widely known as camps. Piqui’s Law is named after a 5-year-old boy who was murdered by his father on April 21, 2017. Ana Estevez, the mother of Piqui, fought hard in the California family court system to protect her child from her abusive ex-husband and father of Piqui. Despite her efforts, the family court refused to implement appropriate safety measures, which led to her son’s tragic death. Ana was told by family court that Piqui’s abusive father, now a convicted murderer, was more credible than she was. The reunification programs prohibited by Piqui's Law operate outside of any prescribed Standard of Care and are rejected by any credible mental health or medical organization. Ironically, the program profiteers tout the importance of a child having a relationship with both parents, yet the cure for a child’s resistance to one parent is to abruptly and completely cut off the child's relationship from the preferred parent. This treatment leads to months, and even years, of children having no contact with a safe and loving parent. ADD ONE PARAGRAPH HERE- (if you would like to)- OF WHY YOU WANT THE GOVERNOR TO SIGN (DELETE THIS BEFORE SUBMITTING): The issues addressed by Piqui's Law are of global concern, so the whole world is literally counting on California’s leadership. For these reasons, I respectfully request your signature on SB 331 (Rubio) because it is time to strengthen California laws to protect victims and children in family court. Sincerely, (YOUR NAME) ### When you've done this...would you mind dropping me a line and letting me know? I would be grateful. Where am I going when this is all done? I am going back to where I started; you will find me at the intersection of Narcissism and Family Court. This is where my heart truly is. I remember what it feels like to be standing at this intersection, red lights and green lights going off in every direction but nothing makes sense because it all defies logic. Crossing this intersection feels treacherous and terrifying. I want to help people in the beginning stages understand the importance of strategy. I want to meet people where they are to help them prepare for this the long, treacherous path so they are fully equipped with supplies, and a finely tuned navigation system. I will not be doing one-on-one consultations but I do have some projects in the works. Those who are already walking this difficult path or need one-on-one assistance will continue to find [support and reprieve with the amazing coaches I've trained]( through the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. I do not regret my advocacy journey, but this path is definitely not for the faint of heart. I have learned a lot and I have met some amazing people. I will always use my platform and the OMB community to promote and highlight legislation that I believe in, legislation like Kayden's Law and Piqui's Law. I will continue to call out injustice and amplify important messages, research and media stories. As for advocacy work…I am grateful to have walked this path, but it's not my path to continue on. P.S. I am working on a new book , "The Narc Decoder: Volume Two," so get your submissions ready! I look forward to decoding them in October and November! Sending love and light, Tina Are you struggling with documentation in your child custody battle? A well-organized documentation system allows you to properly convey your concerns to family court professionals ( judges, GAL’s, evaluators, mediators, and attorneys). Tina Swithin, Founder of One Mom’s Battle and Author of “Divorcing a Narcissist” credits much of the success in her own child custody case to her organizational system. “I would cringe when people would tell me to, ‘document everything,’ or ‘just keep documenting!’ Most weeks, documentation felt like a full-time job and sometimes it was. I was documenting everything and it felt like it was all in vain. Looking back, 99% of my documentation has never been submitted to the court and but, it was that 1% that ended up protecting my children. Documentation is the foundation but there is so much more to it. Once you have the documentation, it’s a matter of pulling it together and showcasing the patterns of behavior in a way that grabs the attention of those around you. It took years for me to fine-tune my system but once I did, it made a world of difference and today, my children have peace. I credit much of my family court success to the way I documented the issues and the way I presented them to the court, to minor’s counsel and to child custody evaluators.” - Tina Swithin In this hour-long course, Tina will guide you through the steps you need to replicate her own personal documentation system. This online course will prove helpful no matter where you are in your child custody battle. Support Group: Those who complete the course are invited to join our private group, “OMB Documentation Group” Link: [( We’d like to hear about family court professionals who are NOT acting “in the best interest” of children and survivors. Link: [www.intheirbestinterest.com]( At the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program, we do not subscribe to the belief that there is always purpose to be found in pain - sometimes there are tragedies that stand alone as unexplainable and horrific. Outside of this category, there are those of us who have been through the family court system and want to ensure that our experiences were not in vain. We seek purpose and are driven to give others a hand up. We strive to be the person we so desperately needed during the darkest moments of our own journeys. It has also been refreshing to walk alongside and mentor professionals who currently work in the family court system or, in the field of mental health. I have the utmost respect for those who recognize that their formal training lacked critical information, hindering them from properly serving their clients. Over the past few years, we have welcomed family law attorneys, guardian ad litem's, paralegals, mediators, social workers, LMFTs and psychologists. One of the testimonials we received from our January cohort was from a family law attorney who said: "As a family law attorney, I thought I knew how to help clients. This course brought me to a whole different level of being able to help people." A.M. (California) This is what another recent graduate had to say about our program: "Everything about this course was excellent. The format was easily accessible to various brain styles (video, text, live calls, and inter-class communications). The actual content was so thoughtfully curated; every single lesson was readily applicable and there was absolutely no fluff. And then having the opportunity to coach a real client was invaluable. If you take the course you will be prepared to be a divorce coach of the highest professional and ethical caliber, and you will be connected with inspiring people working alongside you. It is not something you can “wing.” The effort and time is 1000% worth it." -Jamie Clarisse Apply today at [hcdivorcecoach.com/apply]( and join us for January session! [Click here to learn ALL about becoming a High Conflict Divorce Coach.]( If you resonate with any of the following statements, you would be helped by having a divorce coach on your team: - I am new to divorcing a narcissist (or high conflict individual) and I don’t want to make mistakes. - I am struggling with radical acceptance and/or managing my expectations. - I struggle with what (and how) to document. - I have been using gray rock communication and it’s hurting my case. - I don’t understand what matters to the court system and I feel lost. - I feel alone and no one understands – my own therapist seems baffled. - I am at odds with my attorney, and I don’t feel heard. - I am facing a custody evaluation and I don’t know how to prepare. - The judge sees me as part of the problem and I don’t know how to turn this around. Our high-conflict divorce coaches have received extensive training on post separation abuse. These coaches have been taught by leading experts around the world and they are trained to serve as strategy partners. Check our referral database at [www.hcdivorcecoach.com/coach]( Our position is that alienation is a debunked concept based on Dr. Richard Gardner's clinical observations, not scientific data and it is not recognized by the United Nations (UN), American Psychiatric Association (APA), the World Health Organization (WHO), National Safe Parents Association (NSPO), American Academy of Family Medicine (AAFP) or the American Medical Association (AMA). In 2022, the federal government took a firm stance by enacting Kayden’s Law which calls for evidence-based training for family court professionals, a restriction on expert testimony and limiting reunification therapies and reunification camps. Equally powerful is the stance recently taken by the United Nations, the [report is located here](. Accusations of “alienation” are employed as a legal strategy to deflect from allegations or findings of abuse. While we do acknowledge and validate that there are parents who attempt (and sometimes succeed) in turning children against the healthy parent. When this does occur, we are against utilizing any of the terminology (alienation, parental alienation, parental alienation syndrome, resist-refuse dynamic, pathogenic parenting, targeted parent, etc) that is co-opted and branded by those in the alienation industry and the fathers rights movement. We invite you to learn more about the [alienation industry and its history here](. It's that time again, if you have been curious about hiring a high conflict divorce coach - this is your chance to try it for free. If selected, you will be paired with a coach for two complementary coaching sessions between October 1 and October 14, 2023. Our high-conflict divorce coaches have received extensive training on post separation abuse. These coaches have been taught by leading experts around the world and they are trained to serve as strategy partners. For our student's final assignment, they are paired with a volunteer client who is in need of support and strategy. If you would like to apply to receive free divorce coaching during this part of our program, here are the details: Apply today for two FREE divorce coaching sessions: If you are interested, please read the following very carefully to ensure that you can fully commit to this process. A firm commitment is required as this assignment is considered the final for our student coaches: If you are chosen to participate in this portion of our program, you will receive two free coaching sessions in the following order: o Week of October 1: one introductory session (one-hour in length). You must have flexibility in your schedule to accommodate this appointment. o Week of October 8: second session (30-minutes minimum). You must have flexibility in your schedule to accommodate this appointment. o Survey: immediately following the second coaching session, a survey will be sent to you and is due within 48-hours of receipt. Important: Divorce coaches are not qualified to offer mental health advice or legal advice. Divorce coaches do not replace the services of a therapist or an attorney. Since these are student coaches, we are not able to take cases that involve allegations or findings of sexual abuse. If you have read this entire post and can commit to the above requirements, you may submit your application by going to: · Website: · Password: VClientM21 DEADLINE TO SIGN UP IS SEPTEMBER 22, 2023, AT 10PM PACIFIC - [ABC7: Piqui's Law - named for South Pasadena boy murdered by his father - heading to Newsom's desk]( - [Insider: California legislature passes bill aiming to protect children from abusers during custody disputes]( - [Roundtable: Violence, Criminality, and Human Rights Violations in the Family Courts with Dr. Bandy Lee]( - Survivor Squad Podcast: [Part I: Money, Manipulation & Mayhem w/ Tina Swithin]( - Survivor Squad Podcast: [Part II: Money, Manipulation & Mayhem w/ Tina Swithin]( - [Toxic: The Podcast: Episode 75: Not the Fun Kind of Camp—Family Reunification Camps, aka, Legalized Kidnappings, Are Disturbing as Hell]( - [Your Divorce Survival Guide: Exposing Parental Alienation in Family Courts with Grant Wyeth]( - [What Came Next Podcast]( - [Ms. Magazine: Remembering Catherine Kassenoff and Continuing the Fight for Fair U.S. Child Custody Outcomes]( - [What You Need to Know About Reunification Therapy (Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast)]( - [Here's the Truth About Reunification Camps (Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast)]( - [Nightline: Lala Kent and Tina Swithin]( - [Navigating Narcissism: Dr. Ramani and Tina Swithin]( - [Insider: Her son said his stepdad was sexually abusive. A judge gave the stepdad custody anyway. Then she found the photographs]( - [One Mom's Battle by Annie Kenny: Welcome to America, the Land of the Free - Unless you are the Child of An Abuser]( - [ProPublica: Barricaded Siblings Turn to TikTok While Defying Court Order to Return to Father They Say Abused Them]( - [Page Six: Lala Kent Protesting Family Court Abuse]( - [San Francisco Public Press: Family Courts Rely on Dubious Theory to Dismiss Child Abuse Claims]( - [San Francisco Public Press: Children’s Violent Removal From Santa Cruz Home Raises Calls to End Reunification Camps]( - [Good Times Santa Cruz: Teens and Lawmakers Work to Outlaw Reunification Therapy]( [Facebook]( [Twitter]( [Link]( [Website]( [Pinterest]( [LinkedIn]( [YouTube]( Our mailing address is: One Mom's Battle/Tina Swithin P.O. Box 123 San Luis Obispo, California 93406 Want to change how you receive these emails? You can [update your preferences]( or [unsubscribe from this list](. 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