How Simps Are Ruining Dating

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[Subscribe here]() for more [How Simps Are Ruining Dating]( Why America’s dating market seems increasingly hosed up [John Hawkins](culturcidal) Sep 21 culturcidal   [READ IN APP](   America’s dating market seems increasingly hosed up. The amount of complaining about dating has exploded, statistics show people are having less sex than they used to, and sites like OnlyFans that feature women monetizing their looks for attention have exploded.  The divorce rate, while slightly lower than it has been in the past is still orders of magnitude higher than it was decades ago and our nation’s fertility level is below the replacement rate. The number of marriages has dropped while the ages of people who are getting married have moved from the early twenties to the late twenties. What’s happening? What is going wrong here? It’s no exaggeration to say that the full answers to those questions could fill a book, but for a lot of men, there’s a simpler answer. The problem is WOMEN. These women have bought into feminist propaganda, have decided to focus on their careers, sleep around through their twenties, and MAYBE get married at the last minute in their thirties. The ones that don’t pull that off? They’re all going to end up as wine-drinking cat ladies or OnlyFans thots, shaking their tails for audiences full of dorks. What is wrong with these women? How do they not see the value of finding a good guy who’s a match for them, settling down, and spending a wonderful life with a family? That’s the thinking of a lot of people… and there is certainly more than a little truth to it, right? Still, you know what it reminds me of a little bit? When someone says something like, “Men are such dogs! We all know they cheat more than women!” Then it’s like, “Wait, are you saying the men are cheating with other men? If not, then how does that make the women better? If you’re a woman who knowingly sleeps with a guy who has a wife or a girlfriend, aren’t you a cheater, too? Pretty clearly you don’t have any big moral problems with cheating, right?” So, we can very easily point out these problems with the way a lot of women behave, but maybe there’s a reason for that. For example, one thing the “Godfather of the Red Pill,” Rollo Tomassi has taken to noting lately is that he really doesn’t blame women for being reluctant to get married young. After all, given how high the divorce rate is, doesn’t it make a certain amount of sense to build a career and become self-reliant if you’re a woman? What do you do if you’re a stay-at-home mom who marries at 20 and your marriage implodes ten years later? Now, you have no job skills, two kids in tow and the husband you thought was going to take care of you is in the wind. What now? It may be true that women file for about 70% of divorces, but if you’re a 20-year-old woman trying to decide whether to marry young, that doesn’t really change the calculus, does it? We could also add that waiting until later to get married has its own minuses and risks as well, but the point is women aren’t just deciding to do this out of the blue. There are reasons for what they’re doing. Now, getting on toward the nub of this column, men have always wanted sex, but it’s easier for some guys than others. So, what have the guys that have had a harder time traditionally done? Well, maybe they focused on improving themselves. Maybe they worked harder at getting women than other guys. Maybe they really dropped their standards. Maybe they even started seeing prostitutes. I’m not endorsing that, but it’s not a mystery to anyone why that’s supposedly the “World’s oldest profession.” Going another step down the ladder, I’ve known some girls who used to be strippers. They’ve told me about socially awkward guys who spent staggering amounts of money on strippers from the club, bought them expensive gifts, etc, in what almost always turns out to be a hapless attempt to get them into bed. Was that smart? A good idea? Should you do that? Absolutely not. An awful lot of women, especially women in transactional professions like strippers, have zero qualms about taking any gift you give them, and they feel absolutely no obligation to you for providing it. This can be a recipe for extreme disappointment if you’re a guy who doesn’t understand that and thinks buying a woman dinner or getting her a present, even an expensive present, means she’s going to be so grateful she’s going to have sex with you. In fact, there’s almost nothing good you can say about inept guys who think this way except at least they’re in front of a woman in the real world TRYING SOMETHING. Simps are worse though because they take this same mentality into the online world, where it’s orders of magnitude more pathetic. After all, when you moon over some woman online, you typically don’t even know her, which means you essentially have no shot at all of ever dating her, having sex with her or even getting to know her as a person. Yes, if you give some OnlyFans woman enough money, she (or maybe her manager, boyfriend, or foreign worker she hired pretending to be her) MIGHT have a conversation with you or if you give her an astronomical amount of money, she MIGHT even meet you, but that’s as far as it’s going 99.99% of the time. [Dude pays 10k to meet a girl he follows on OnlyFans. All he got was a hug. One month later, that money is funding a trip for her and her actual bf]( You’re going to pay her money, she’s going to take it and she’s going to buy herself something with it or worse yet, take her boyfriend on a vacation with your cash. Why does a site like OnlyFans exist? Because there are LEGIONS of guys like this crushing on women so hard that they’ll GIVE THEM MONEY in return for what? Seeing them naked? There are a million women online you can see naked for free. Because if you give a woman on OnlyFans some money she MIGHT have a conversation with you? You don’t have to pay to have conversations with beautiful women. I see women this attractive in the grocery store and gym all the time. Wouldn’t it be better to just say “hi” to them in the real world, even if you know there’s a 99% chance nothing is going to happen? 1% beats your 0% chance with an OnlyFans girl if you’re not ultra-rich or a celebrity. Join [Meetup](. Try online dating. Anything is better than simping for OnlyFans girls… well almost. You see, simps [making OnlyFans a viable business model]( that lures in millions of women is only one prong of the problem. Simps have also gotten into the habit of relentlessly praising women online to such an extent that they’ve given many women a false view of how attractive they are. For example, on Facebook, there was an attractive woman who was suggested to me as a friend. After looking through her feed a bit, I saw an attractive picture she put up of herself. Among the comments on it were: “You are in astounding woman, and God’s greatest creation thank you for who you are and what you do Hi there beautiful Stunning as ever! You today......Hope your day is Awesome.. So incredibly breath-taking beauty you look beautiful everytime. Perfection Beautiful photo. You do know how to dress Oh my! So beautiful!” Incidentally, these aren’t even half of the positive comments she got on the picture. If you’re a woman and you’re getting these kinds of comments from armies of simps every time you put up decent pictures, what else would you think except, “I’m one of the best-looking women out there!” Next thing you know, some guy who’s actually just as attractive as you are asks you out and you’re thinking, “Yech! This guy isn’t in my league! Not even close!” Men complain about slightly better-than-average-looking women who seem like they’re waiting around for Jason Momoa to ask them out, but who gave these women the idea that they’re God’s gift to men? Simps! Have you ever seen this meme? The reason why it’s a meme is because simps have really managed to create a competing option to marriage for a lot of women. Instead of finding a guy, getting married and having kids, simps have made it so many women now think, “Hey, why not just post sexy pictures of myself? A bunch of losers will give me money to look at them and maybe that’s not the greatest, but it’s probably better than being a waitress or secretary and MAYBE I’ll even hit it big and make millions!” Other women have been convinced by simps constantly fluffing their egos that pretty much every guy who’d be interested in them long-term is beneath them. Who is this good for? Ultimately, not the women. Not the men they could have married. Not even the simps, because if they’d focused on improving themselves and meeting women face-to-face, they might actually be dating a woman instead of paying TrashyPrincess123 $250 a month in hopes that she’ll say their name or have a 5-minute conversation with them. Yes, it is true that despite the name of this column, simps are not entirely responsible for ruining dating in America, but they are absolutely a big part of the problem and it’s time more people acknowledged that. --------------------------------------------------------------- [Upgrade to paid]( [Share]( [Leave a comment]( [101 Things All Young Adults Should Know]( Invite your friends and earn rewards If you enjoy Culturcidal by John Hawkins, share it with your friends and earn rewards when they subscribe. [Invite Friends](   [Like]( [Comment]( [Restack](   © 2024 John Hawkins 548 Market Street PMB 72296, San Francisco, CA 94104 [Unsubscribe]() [Get the app]( writing]()