How to Be More Charming (Without Being Obnoxious)

The Secret to Being More Charming (Without Being Obnoxious) Watching charm in action is like watching a good dancer. There’s style, control, and an effortless rhythm. That charming, likable person seemingly knows the right thing to say and do at the right moment. While charm is certainly a skill and might come easier to some — i.e. the extroverted — it doesn’t require being well-read or witty. True charm is about being present and interested in what another person has to say. Does it require effort? Like anything with a payoff, it does. But the good news is that there’s nothing definite that must be done, although the following tips can help. SELF %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-secret-to-being-more-charming-without-being-obnoxious%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/GQ5Jn_-PGO0u9D5YZQ2BXft3dhY=269 [The Secret to Being More Charming (Without Being Obnoxious)](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-secret-to-being-more-charming-without-being-obnoxious%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/DXu0iLTj2_nxN03UfqYkBIDSV5E=269) Displaying authentic charm%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-secret-to-being-more-charming-without-being-obnoxious%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/Ap55wUeDKJhm46sv-_Cdl5J7hJ4=269[is easier than you think.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-secret-to-being-more-charming-without-being-obnoxious%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/MCQx9zITzxrT15fon_ZmeUSMhsI=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fthe-secret-to-being-more-charming-without-being-obnoxious%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/5/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/AT8Nu7EgLGyJr8echrwganFNK60=269) TIPS AND TRICKS Need a Boost of Confidence? Complete Three Minor Tasks. Completing tasks is crucial to feeling confident. And the more you complete, the more momentum you gain. That’s why it helps to have a daily list of three easy-to-knock-off items. “It sounds so stupidly simple,” says, notes Dr. Pat Love. “But it’s not.” Why? Chances are, you’re continually getting distracted and pulled away from what’s in front of you, so at the end of the day, you merely stop rather than finish anything. Make yourself complete at least three small tasks. Even if one is “change out the Brita filter.” Small things add to the completed pile, and while that makes you feel good, the rest of the house sees that you get stuff done. “That builds trust,” she says. 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Here’s How.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-to-be-more-patient%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/IaDeilSA0BVWeMvsSSJJP4UGMmM=269) Patience is a skill. And like any other skill, it can be nurtured and grown. %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-to-be-more-patient%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/1xpDVCvXmwBVCNcuyOwxXcaM-ZI=269[These seven exercises can help.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-to-be-more-patient%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/jCZhku3L5I1uC9LzbxImWxZ3vaw=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fhow-to-be-more-patient%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/5/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/MLaKQu_lhs7JkWPlHtnKtCpeYwE=269) FURTHER READING - [6 Ways to Calm Down When You’re About to Lose Your Cool](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fcalm-yourself-down-advice%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/NaFSEdMAfp3sEFIuFxasf3MblB0=269) - ​​​​​[22 Stress-Relief Activities That Only Require 5 Minutes or Less](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Flove-money%2Fstress-relief-activities-5-minutes%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/gTtUU2Wm_aZg4CgJvypuizzLVCs=269) - [How to Avoid Transferring Stress to a Child](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2Fkeep-transferring-anxiety-stress-child%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/d0Hx3zhOvQowtggilhR8JJaBf0w=269) DRINKS %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fgear%2Fwhat-is-ancho-reyes-mexican-chile-drink%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/Hj_WKkuwKqvgR12YL747Hnz3xv8=269 [Ancho Reyes Chile Liqueur Will Set Your Home Cocktails on Fire](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fgear%2Fwhat-is-ancho-reyes-mexican-chile-drink%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/-e-O6_4VsqCBw7fwtckQtYJELuM=269) Distilled using the ancho chili pepper, the liqueur %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fgear%2Fwhat-is-ancho-reyes-mexican-chile-drink%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/GRqTOrCOZtfa5k1WT9lsq5v2--8=269[adds flavorful heat to everything from margaritas to Moscow mules.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fgear%2Fwhat-is-ancho-reyes-mexican-chile-drink%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/F-HuLWnqyxJGtgxR9dx2zG2-EZk=269) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fgear%2Fwhat-is-ancho-reyes-mexican-chile-drink%2F%3Futm_campaign=28386%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/5/010001808b723188-d35b9127-6361-4531-ab6f-cac9adc91233-000000/O-9LpWZT7RPXx62VJ-_YXWIZlec=269) You're receiving this email because you signed up to receive communications from BDG Media. 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