7 Signs Your Kid Needs More Discipline — And How to Start

Plus, The Right Way to Tell Your Partner You Were Wrong [Fatherly](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2F%3Futm_campaign=20842%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017eb7080889-2f0382c2-3115-471e-91c9-6cef79183d5b-000000/Ir0VwhYr3Jr9fkHXF6R7TyS-u1Q=256) No parent sets out to raise an undisciplined kid. But sometimes you make compromises (“You can have that cereal if you don’t ask for anything else.”) and give unnecessary rewards (“Here’s a cookie for finishing your vegetables.”) to make things easier. All of the sudden, you have a child and a set of pint-sized demands that run the show. It happens to the best of us. It’s vital, however, to recognize this and make the proper course corrections. PARENTING %2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F7-signs-your-kid-needs-more-discipline%2F%3Futm_campaign=20842%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/1/0100017eb7080889-2f0382c2-3115-471e-91c9-6cef79183d5b-000000/5FpcgIt3RxKiG4Fi6Uw91rgtlKo=256 [7 Signs Your Kid Needs More Discipline — And How to Start](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F7-signs-your-kid-needs-more-discipline%2F%3Futm_campaign=20842%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/2/0100017eb7080889-2f0382c2-3115-471e-91c9-6cef79183d5b-000000/6gfxLTRq8sZuTfr2F6-AxXWx0DM=256) Is your child secretly running the show? [Here's what to do.](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F7-signs-your-kid-needs-more-discipline%2F%3Futm_campaign=20842%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/3/0100017eb7080889-2f0382c2-3115-471e-91c9-6cef79183d5b-000000/c0pVYuBsBFquECS5rW4CyGA_Xjc=256) [READ THE STORY](%2F%2Fwww.fatherly.com%2Fparenting%2F7-signs-your-kid-needs-more-discipline%2F%3Futm_campaign=20842%26utm_medium=fatherlyDaily%26utm_source=newsletter%26utm_session=c37e7b32-5b18-4c2b-a3ac-adb88aa64d4e/4/0100017eb7080889-2f0382c2-3115-471e-91c9-6cef79183d5b-000000/OU0C31Uss8DHAReREPlfzXXCTj8=256) TIPS AND TRICKS It’s Hard to Discipline Well If You’re Unclear About Standards or Values Discipline is a system in which parents are passing down their values to their children. Because of that, it must be based on values like honesty, or fairness, or it becomes unmoored and wishy-washy. Do those values have to be Judeo-Christian and based on some sort of faith? Nope. But they do need to be based on the good of the family. And it’s even better when they are values, which are championed by everyone in the family for the good of everyone else. When these values are clear and codified, they can be used to set clear and well-defined boundaries. Those boundaries give a child direction. Enforcing those boundaries and knowing the reasons they are enforced helps a kid internalize the values and act in accordance with them even when they are away from their parents. 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