Mr. Right: America Is Hurtling Toward Doug Emhoff Masculinity

I’d love to be able to tell you everything I write for this newsletter is a completely original idea spawned out of nothing but the far corners of my own beautiful mind, but that is not the case. America Is Hurtling Toward Doug Emhoff Masculinity Mr. Right October 18 [Share]( Mr. Right October 18 [Share](     By John Loftus and Dylan Housman Welcome back to Mr. Right, a newsletter about navigating modern manhood for normal guys in a not-normal world. Today we talk about an unspoken problem with Doug Emhoff, weaponized sex and proper concertgoing technique. As always, if you’re enjoying the newsletter, please consider [becoming a Daily Caller Patriot]( starting at just $1 a month. You’ll get our full newsletter each week, our full suite of other newsletters, our full premium documentary library and subscriber-exclusive articles. It’s the best way to support us.   I’d love to be able to tell you everything I write for this newsletter is a completely original idea spawned out of nothing but the far corners of my own beautiful mind, but that is not the case. Sometimes we need a little outside inspiration, and that’s exactly what I got last week when listening to a podcast interview between Commentary Magazine contributor Christine Rosen and Free Beacon editor-in-chief Eliana Johnson. The ladies were talking about the Doug Emhoff scandals, you know, the reports of him knocking up his kids’ nanny, hitting a girlfriend and sexually demeaning women in the office. But what caught my attention was when they touched on the power dynamic between Kamala and Doug in their marriage, which hardly anyone else has talked about. Read this brief excerpt from their conversation before I use it as a launching pad: “It’s really complicated when women are more powerful and out-earn … it’s really complicated. It’s usually not that pretty. It’s not super natural. It’s hard.” “What I think is very frustrating … for Harris and Pelosi, they don’t come out and say ‘You know what, I’m so lucky my husband supports me and my career, but it’s really hard.’” “Which is the experience of most women in that situation, and in a culture where we’re heading towards a world where that is gonna become much more likely, because women are out-earning men in a lot of fields and will likely continue to do so given their educational achievements vis-a-vis men.” “The Emhoff thing would like to have them pretend that men are totally cool and happy about this.” “They are not!” They are really onto something here, and it’s all the more interesting that it’s two very successful professional women making the observation. It might not be front of mind, but one big problem with selling Emhoff as a paragon of masculinity is that he plays second fiddle to his wife. Men want to lead, they want to run the family, they want to be the provider. Emhoff is not. His wife is the star of the show, she’s the one with all the power, she’s the one their world revolves around. He is a sidekick, not a leader. While the other problems with Emhoff are more glaring, there’s no doubt that many men resist Emhoff Masculinity at a subconscious level for this reason. As the ladies say here, most men are not “totally cool and happy” with this. Tim Walz has the same problem, and it’s been talked about a bit more – men don’t want to aspire to be the ineffectual sidekick to a woman who actually runs things. However, as they also point out, this is going to become a reality for more and more men, whether they like it or not. Women now do better in school than men do. Women are graduating college at a [significantly higher rate]( than men. More and more women are entering the corporate world and taking high-paying jobs. In other words, the portion of women who make more money and have more professional status than the average man is only going to increase in the coming years. Unfortunately, I can’t say I have a solution to this dynamic at this point in time. But I’m writing about it because it feels like nobody is talking about it. No, tradcons, we aren’t going to ban women from working and kick them out of schools. The modern arrangement where both men and women have the choice to have careers or not isn’t going anywhere, nor should it. What’s going to have to happen is a cultural shift. Men are going to have to figure out different ways to lead and different ways to provide beyond simply bringing home the bacon. Sitting around and seething that you can’t find a girlfriend without a master’s degree won’t cut it. Otherwise, we descend into Emhoff Masculinity, taking out our frustrations on female subordinates and mistreating them because we’re mad we don’t wear the pants at home.   Dear Mr. Right: Wife Won’t Have Sex Unless I Vote Blue Dear Mr. Right, This election season has been absolute hell. My wife, who’s a diehard Democrat, is pressuring me to vote for Kamala because we live in a swing state. The thing is, I don’t care about politics. I’m completely indifferent to who wins in November. I don’t like Kamala, and I don’t like Trump. I have never voted in my life. But now my wife is bringing out the big guns: she’s threatening to not have sex with me for an entire year if I don’t vote for Kamala. Do I cave to her demand? Is she just bluffing? I literally have no clue how to navigate this situation. - Asher from Georgia Dear Asher, I have to admit: you’re down bad. My condolences. This is a terrible predicament to find yourself in. If a girlfriend made this threat, dump her. But it’s your wife, so this becomes more complicated. I’m sure you love your wife, and I’m sure you didn’t fall in love with her because she was a raving lunatic liberal. That being said, you need to stay strong. Do not cave to this demand, which is absurd. Instead, play the long game. People who are emotionally attached to politics always get aggressive during an election year. A presidential election this close sometimes brings out the worst in people. They become irrational. They think the election is the be-all and end-all of their lives. It’s not, obviously, but they believe it is, and you can’t convince them otherwise. Maybe there are other politicians in your state whom you’d vote for. Maybe do some research into those down-ballot candidates. Dig in a bit for your wife’s sake. Maybe someone is running for county commissioner and you agree with their local proposals. Vote for that guy or gal. But if you don’t want to vote for Kamala, don’t betray your conscience. Never sacrifice your dignity. Once the heat of the election season passes, and we’re a couple months into Trump or Harris’s presidency, I think your wife will forget about it. Things will settle back into normalcy. And if you stay strong on what you believe in, your wife will respect you in the long run. Not to mention, you won’t set the precedent that intimacy can be weaponized against you, which can be a death knell for a relationship.   He Has A Point: Keep Your Takes To Yourself This week’s “He Has A Point” goes to Ben Gross. He responded on Twitter to a young man who shared a selfie in a “One-State Solution” shirt in Palestinian colors, and said he was “hoping to start a fight at the gym.” “I don’t have strong feelings about one vs. two state, but I do believe you should feel embarrassed to be an American white guy at the gym dictating your preferred peace terms for an active conflict on a t-shirt, then posting about it online to show off to your white leftist pals,” Ben said. There’s not much more to add to that. By all means, be open about your political beliefs. Share them in the appropriate venues. But wearing a provocative t-shirt to the gym while fantasizing that you’ll get to tangle with some muscular men who get mad at you is some of the corniest sh*t I’ve ever seen. Please do not do this, whether it’s a pro-Palestine shirt or some kind of MAGA garb. Wanting to start a public fistfight over politics is embarrassing.   Now We’re Cooking: Enjoying A Concert When You Don’t Like The Music Last week, I went to a Vampire Weekend concert with my girl, and though we didn’t really listen to the music at all, we still had a great time. We also invented a new game involving the words “Trump” and “MAGA” that’s perfect to play this election season. If you aren’t familiar with Vampire Weekend, the band is like One Direction for hipster 16-year-old dudes who are going through a photography phase. If you aren’t familiar with One Direction, think of a boy band that sings brooding ballads and sentimental songs, and combines string instruments and pop synthesizers. In other words, Vampire Weekend’s music is ever-so-slightly gay. You might be saying, “Mr. Right, why would you ever go to a Vampire Weekend concert?” It’s a fair question. I know maybe one or two of their songs. I’m not a greasy hipster from the Lower East Side who wears ripped denim and has stick-n-poke tattoos on his hands. But sometimes attending a concert is not about the music – it’s about taking your girl out, having some drinks, and socializing, all on a weekday night. One thing I’ve learned over the years is that the amount of alcohol you drink at a concert is critical. It’s a delicate balance that requires a deft touch, an experienced touch. You definitely want to be a little sauced so you can feel more relaxed in a larger crowd, bust out the tipsy dance moves, even flex the golden pipes during the chorus of your favorite song. However, you do not want to get out of control, get kicked out of the venue, or accidentally start beef with another concert-goer. So at the concert last week, we achieved the perfect level of tipsiness. The key was the pre-game, having a tasteful shot of tequila, and chasing said shot with tequila High Noons. It’s also important to eat something greasy. Never go to a concert on an empty stomach. We opted for pizza. Pizza is perfect. Simple, but filling. Don’t eat a Chipotle bowl before drinking. In the end, the night became more about enjoying each other’s company than the actual music, which we could barely hear from where we were sitting on the lawn. We also reinvented the classic ‘Penis Game.’ The Penis Game is a competition between two people to see who can say the word “penis” the loudest in public. But instead of “penis,” we substituted “MAGA,” “Trump ‘24,” “Close the border,” etc. I would like to think some of the concertgoers got a kick out of it, though we did hear a “Kamala!” echo out in response. The couple next to us, who frankly looked like liberals, then packed up their blanket and left. Yeah, that’s what’s good. Now we’re cooking.   Did you love this newsletter by Mr. Right? Email us. Think we should be boiled in oil and locked into a room filled with hungry rats? Email us. Want advice from Mr. Right for next week? Email us. See you next Friday. mrright@dailycaller.com [X]( Mr. Right is on Twitter! Stay connected for even more based takes, commentary and daily updates. [X]( Mr. Right is on Twitter! 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