Are the stories you tell yourself useful?

Choosing the genre ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏  ͏ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ ­ [bullet journal](     “The difference between comedy and horror is the music.” ― Jordan Peele This week’s Weekly Reflection is written by Jessica, our Head of Community and Education.  Dear {NAME},  I've been a fence sitter about parenthood for many years. I admire all the incredible commitment (and resources) required to be a good parent. Parenthood has represented a very tangible sense of loss (of time, my pursuits, autonomy, freedom, money, and sleep) with a reward that I can't truly imagine. They say, "people don't fear change, they fear loss," and this rings true for me.  However, being with my partner has drastically impacted my way of thinking. In contrast to my Worry Defaults, he looks at this life shift with acceptance. "It will be hard, and we will figure it out," he says. He is anchored in the belief in our capacity for resilience, resourcefulness, and adaptation to handle whatever comes.  This mindset permeates everything we've done together. Last year, we moved houses and I was complaining about how tiring and hard it was to pack and declutter everything. His reply sticks with me:  "Yeah it's work, but we have to do it regardless, so why begrudge the work?"  He accepted of the reality of the circumstance, and was just going to make it happen without the backdrop of additional complaint. I paused and asked myself, "Despite whether it’s true or not, is what I'm saying helpful?" No, it was not.  Since our words create our world, I was creating an unnecessarily whiny one. Our reality was that we were moving homes, and I had a choice in whether I was writing in the genre of drama or romantic comedy.  I am applying this to our choice to, ultimately, pursue having children.  Yes, perhaps playing out hypothetical catastrophes can help me plan for the worst. And perhaps, it also weighs me down unnecessarily with things that haven't even happened. So, for my own mental health, I shifted the genre of this story away from horror, thriller, drama... to a romantic comedy.  When my anxious thoughts arise, I pause and say, “Thank you, and I have everything I need to be okay.” This has given me room for the excitement of this life shift.  This week, consider: What would your story look like if you changed the genre?  With love and respect,  Jessica [Basics and Beyond course: Access lessons about the Bujo method, techniques, and more]( The Playlist - Get deeper in your Bujo Practice with the [Basics & Beyond course](. Learn about the method that can help you better understand your own story in order to write your future. - [Read "Reflecting On Your Inner Voice"]( - This article explores the honesty and practice of honoring your own reflections and encourages us to consider questions like "What are the messages you have for yourself? How do you move to action and ensure your actions are in line with your goals?" and "How do you self-reflect on what’s speaking from inside you?" Shop [Image of The Pencil]( The Pencil [Shop]( [Image of Pen Bundle]( Pen Bundle [Shop]( [Image of Edition X]( Edition X [Shop]( [instagram]( [YouTube]( [pinterest]( No longer want to receive these emails? [Unsubscribe](. Bullet Journal 223 Bedford Avenue #1157 Brooklyn, New York 11211 Can't see this email? [View in Your Browser](